Why is it that I can search through porn with actress names, but I can’t even find a way to learn any of the male counterparts names……. This seems like injustice to me.
Jeanette Winterson, Lighthousekeeping
A very good way of going about explaining this issue. It’s good to see something positive come from Tumblr.
REBLOG THE SHIT OUT OF THIS.
And the reblog button was hit so quickly that it actually was reblogged BEFORE it was clicked
Will always reblog this.
I just like being girly. But what I like more, is having people noticing without minding. Just the fact that they’re aware of what I am and want to be without seeing anything but god old little me makes me happy, and most importantly, comfortable.
I literally never, ever reblog these sort of posts, but this one is going up, since it’s pretty much one of the few who nails it all the way!
This is what feminism SHOULD be about. And it still is for a lot of people, but not enough of them on this site.
It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.
But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.
And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.
What if this had been reverse? What if the girl dumped him and then he smashed all of her CDS or her cellphone and laptop? How would society react? By calling him abusive and controlling.
See, female on male abuse is seen as funny or comical. you see those commercials with the wife throwing the boyfriends stuff out the window. IF the genders were reversed, everyone would see it and call it out for what it really is…abuse.
Abuse is not funny in any way shape or form.
This is why we don’t need feminism.
This mother fucker also owes him a fuckton of money.
thats more than 600$ worth of games!
that’s a fucking felony, theft and destruction of property. call the law on the psycho bitch!
"This is why we don’t need feminism."
Actually, it’s why we DO need feminism. Because feminism isn’t about making women superior and putting men on the bottom. Feminism IS about making everyone equal. The “comedy” behind male abuse is a result of the patriarchy, which is exactly what feminism is trying to destroy. The patriarchy mocks weakness in men, so when men get abused, it’s not taken seriously. It’s a joke, it’s funny, it’s no big deal. “You’re a man, suck it up.”
That’s not what feminists want. If you think that’s what we want, then you you’re not talking to the right feminists. It’s about equality, NOT just reversing the roles, understand?
It’s not okay to abuse women, it’s not okay to abuse men, it’s not okay to abuse ANYONE. That’s the fucking point. The point isn’t “whaa it’s time for women to get to be mean you need to lean your place”. The point is gender inequality is stupid and unhelpful to everyone.
So if you don’t like the way men are treated, don’t hate on feminists. Join them. We don’t like it either.
As a young woman growing up smack in the middle of hook up culture, with MTV telling me that pregnancy isn’t all that unnatural for my age, the nuns that taught at my catholic school that sex is a no-no, and the entire world telling me, as was so fabulously put by Kate Harding in Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape, “Women’s first- if not only- job is to be attractive to men… If you were born with a vagina your primary obligation from the onset of adolescence and well into adulthood will be to make your self pretty for heterosexual men’s pleasure.” - I feel a little conflicted about exactly who the fuck I am.
It seems impossible to go anywhere without tripping over sex, “don’t have sex”, “do have sex”, “LOOK! SEX!”. And the question I’ve been asking myself all this time is, “Is this empowerment?”
I’m trying to approach this without much of an agenda, all I really want is to live my life in a way that I enjoy and that I feel is going to set the world up to be a better place for my sons and daughters one day than it was for me. So do I go with slut? Or do I go with virgin? or some manner of virgin who’s really a slut or slut who wishes she were a virgin? etc etc etc
I read through all this feminist literature, and when I pick out the particular problem I’m looking to solve all I hear is “Is this Empowerment?”
So is this empowerment? Or does empowerment have more clothes on? Get paid more? Sell less?
Is empowerment wearing whatever the hell I want, even as I’m bombarded with images and notions of what I should want by a society that’s already objectifying me for what I DO WANT to wear?
Is empowerment, sleeping with whoever you want? Even though society will degrade you and demean you for it. Is it saying yes whenever you want, even if it means people will look at your breasts and not your degree?
I feel like this could just be a running news and opinion column. “Is This Empowerment?” - and heck if I knew any other feminist writers (If I may call myself barely a feminist writer) maybe it would be.
I suppose it might be too much to ask, to see some reinforcement from the greater world that marching to the beat of my own drum- or what I think is my own drum amid this clattering cacophony of marching band madness that is the world - isn’t hurting how the world views women.
Violet Rose (via c-icatrix)
Talk about cognitive dissonance
This is one of my favorite quotes about sexualization/objectification vs autonomy of female bodies bc it’s so succinct
The complete article can be found here: http://totalfratmove.com/why-girls-should-not-cut-their-hair-short/
I love the look of everyone’s hair above. I don’t understand why people think it’s bad?
Two of my friends have a short/pixie hair. They look really cute with it too.
WOAH WOAH WOAH. HOLD THE FUCK UP HERE.
THIS GUY IS NOT ONLY SAYING THAT AESTHETICS ARE THE ONLY IMPORTANT THING IN APPEALING TO GUYS, BUT HE’S TELLING US WE CAN’T HAVE OUR HAIR HOW WE WANT IT?
THIS IS THE BIGGEST LOAD OF PATRIARCHAL BULLSHIT I’VE EVER HEARD.
ALL OF THE GIRLS UP THERE LOOK FUCKING FLAWLESS WITH PIXIE CUTS. AND EVEN IF THEY DIDN’T, GUESS WHAT!! IT DOESN’T EVEN AFFECT YOU!! SO STOP!! TELLING!! WOMEN!! TO LOOK!! A CERTAIN!! WAY!!!
US WOMEN AREN’T HERE TO PRETTY OURSELVES UP FOR MEN. HELL, SOME OF US AREN’T EVEN ATTRACTED TO MEN. WE’RE HERE TO BE OURSELVES AND IF SOMEONE HAPPENS TO BECOME ATTRACTED TO US ALONG THE WAY, THEN HEY, THAT’S AWESOME.
AND TRYING TO SAY THAT EVEN WOMEN NOTICE IT? BULLSHIT. IT’S JUST TRYING TO GUILT US INTO THINKING THAT THE POPULAR MALE OPINION IS RIGHT.
WOMEN CAN DO WHATEVER THEY WANT TO DO. WE’RE NOT JUST HERE TO FEED INTO THE IMAGE OF WHATEVER SEX FANTASIES MEN HAVE. WE’RE INDIVIDUALS, AND WE CAN EXPRESS OURSELVES IN WHATEVER WAY WE WANT.
SO WHAT IF YOU DON’T LIKE SHORT HAIR? WHAT MAKES YOU THINK YOUR PERSONAL DISTASTE FOR SOMETHING MEANS IT SHOULD NOT BE DONE?
BAAWWW WOMEN AREN’T DRESSING UP THEIR APPEARANCE TO APPEAL TO ME SPECIFICALLY WHY DON’T THEY LOOK LIKE HOW I WANT THEM TO LOOK BAWWWWWWW
Also, can we talk about the intense fat shaming he’s throwing at Jennifer Laurence? “Should have dropped dessert instead”? Are you kidding me?
Like, how fucked up is that comment directed at ANYONE? REGARDLESS of their actual weight?
As well as everything above, the comment about Rihanna in relation to the fact she was beaten by her boyfriend? A whole new level of crassness.
Someone clearly has problems with the very simple idea that women are people.